it's only lonely at the top if you don't want anyone with you

I have sometimes heard and read it said that it is lonely at the top. My impression is that it is lonely everywhere and you will always be lonely at some point in your life even if you are surrounded by people, even people very close to you. I have known people who have told me that married life can actually be the loneliest kind of life from time to time. Being with someone can make loneliness worse. Popular entertainers and politicians may well feel more lonely than ordinary people but this is not necessarily because it invariably must be that way. Jesus chose to be a man of sorrows, acquainted with suffering and grief. You don't have to be lonely but it is tempting to want to be alone. Very tempting. How much loneliness is due to circumstances beyond my control and how much of it is chosen loneliness?