Monday, April 22, 2024

John Lindell apologizes for having both the sword-swallower & Mark Driscoll at Stronger Men conference; comparing Mark Driscoll on a blanky-wrapped church planter in 2006 to his account of how he cried over a lost button during a rough season of his life

https://www.christianpost.com/news/john-lindell-apologizes-for-inviting-alex-magala-mark-driscoll.html

https://churchleaders.com/news/476662-john-lindell-apologizes-for-inviting-mark-driscoll-and-alex-magala-to-stronger-mens-conference.html
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https://julieroys.com/john-lindell-apologizes-for-inviting-driscoll-and-sword-swallower-to-stronger-mens-conference/

Now that we’ve had a week to see how this situation between John Lindell and Mark Driscoll and Lindell’s sons and the men’s conference has been playing out, it seems necessary to go back to something that has nagged at me about Jennifer McKinney’s book Making Christianity Manly Again.  She cited a passage that I am about to quote from extensively, which came from a 2006 sermon Mark Driscoll preached at Mars Hill.  In McKinney’s book, alas, there’s just the title of the sermon and the series it came from.  That’s all, basically.  There’s no minute and second timestamp indication where the passage she quoted could be found and I will get to why this is a substantial failure in scholarly methodology almost immediately.  But first I want to cite the passage because McKinney had good reason to cite it.  What she did not do (and couldn’t really, because Driscoll has made some disclosures only in the last eight months to his mass media fanbase) is provide a juxtaposition of how Driscoll talks about other church planters and pastors who fall down and can’t get up again compared to his own accounts of a dark season in his life.  First we’ll revisit an old sermon from the 2006 series Christians Gone Wild.

  

https://archive.org/details/Mars_Hill_Church_Sermons_2006/2006/20060108+church-planting-in-corinth.mp3

 

CHURCH PLANTING IN CORINTH

Part 1 of 1st Corinthians

Pastor Mark Driscoll | Acts 18:1-18 | January 08, 2006

00:03:34 to 00:06:22

Paul’s the kind of guy who actually could take a beating. He took quite a few; he’s pretty tough. And because of that, he becomes a good church planter,and you have to be that way. When we started this church, man, it was hard; a lot of hard times. Every time a guy goes to plant a church, a lot of hard times. And the bottom line is to be the dude who plants a church – and I know some of you guys wanna be church planters – that’s why I’m saying this. But a lot of you wanna be church planters because it’s a job indoors, doesn’t require any heavy lifting, right? You’re not gonna make it, right – you gotta be a dude. And I still remember one time meeting the least dudely dude of all church planters that I’ve ever met, and his wife called me and said, “Could you please come talk to my pastor – my husband” – he was also her pastor. “He’s planting this church, but he’s really had a hard day.” “Well, what’s he doing?” “He’s crying.” “Really – what’s that look like, for a guy to cry?”

There’s no crying in church planting – you can’t cry! You get up, you take your standing ten-count, you adjust your cup, and you put your hands up and you get back in the ring, and you take your shots. You don’t cry! So I drive out to his house, and he’s literally laying – the pastor – laying on the floor in the fetal position with a blanky – a blanky. And his wife and his two teenage sons are looking at him, and he’s crying. I said, “What happened?” He said, “They were mean to me. They didn’t like me. They rejected me.” I’m like, “Maybe they didn’t respect you. You have a blanky and you cry, and you’re on the floor. This does not inspire the best men to follow you into war.” You know, this is not good. So his sons look at me, and I said, “Dude, you gotta get up. You cannot lay on the ground and cry in front of teenage sons. They’re gonna be on Dr. Phil talking about this to everybody. You gotta get up!”

So the boys look at me; they say, “Well, what do we do?” I say, “Dig a hole – we’re putting your dad in it. He’s no good; we’re done with him, you know. He’s just no good at all.” If you’re gonna plant a church, Satan, demons, weirdoes, freaks, nut jobs, heretics, the guys who read the whole Left Behind series – they’re all gonna show up. You gotta put your hands up, adjust your cup, and you gotta do your job. That’s Paul – Paul’s that kinda guy. Now so he’s the dude. Now, to plant his church he’s gonna go to a city. A dude’s gotta go to a city. After this, Paul left; went to Athens – great city. There he preached on Mars Hill – Acts 17, Acts 18. He went on to Corinth – dude goes to a city. City is important; we’re gonna talk a lot about the city. Many of you, when you think of Christianity you think of, you know, Norman Rockwell paintings, somebody out in the woods, 50 acres, 27 kids. You know, milking goats and getting your own eggs from the chicken, making your own clothes, singing the songs from The Sound of Music, homeschooling, waiting for the Rapture.

 

Now that’s fairly typical 2006 Driscoll.  Let me give you a chance to compare that to the version that’s posted to RealFaith this day of April 22, 2024.  I have discussed sermon redaction and editing on the part of Team Driscoll in the past but this provides a new opportunity to show why I believe Jennifer McKinney dropped the ball by not attempting to indicate where in the sermon the passage I just quoted came from where Driscoll makes fun of the church planter in a blanky.  Everything I’ve highlighted in red is stuff from the original sermon I heard at the Ballard campus (because I was there for that series) that has been excised from the new Driscoll media library: 

 

https://realfaith.com/sermons/church-planting-in-corinth/

00:02:37 to 00:03:52

Paul’s the kind of guy who actually could take a beating. He took quite a few; he’s pretty tough. And because of that, he becomes a good church planter,and you have to be that way. When we started this church, man, it was hard; a lot of hard times. Every time a guy goes to plant a church, a lot of hard times. And the bottom line is to be the dude who plants a church – and I know some of you guys wanna be church planters – that’s why I’m saying this. But a lot of you wanna be church planters because it’s a job indoors, doesn’t require any heavy lifting, right? You’re not gonna make it, right – you gotta be a dude. And I still remember one time meeting the least dudely dude of all church planters that I’ve ever met, and his wife called me and said, “Could you please come talk to my pastor – my husband” – he was also her pastor. “He’s planting this church, but he’s really had a hard day.” “Well, what’s he doing?” “He’s crying.” “Really – what’s that look like, for a guy to cry?”

There’s no crying in church planting – you can’t cry! You get up, you take your standing ten-count, you adjust your cup, and you put your hands up and you get back in the ring, and you take your shots. You don’t cry! So I drive out to his house, and he’s literally laying – the pastor – laying on the floor in the fetal position with a blanky – a blanky. And his wife and his two teenage sons are looking at him, and he’s crying. I said, “What happened?” He said, “They were mean to me. They didn’t like me. They rejected me.” I’m like, “Maybe they didn’t respect you. You have a blanky and you cry, and you’re on the floor. This does not inspire the best men to follow you into war.” You know, this is not good. So his sons look at me, and I said, “Dude, you gotta get up. You cannot lay on the ground and cry in front of teenage sons. They’re gonna be on Dr. Phil talking about this to everybody. You gotta get up!”

So the boys look at me; they say, “Well, what do we do?” I say, “Dig a hole – we’re putting your dad in it. He’s no good; we’re done with him, you know. He’s just no good at all.” (00:03:04) If you’re gonna plant a church, Satan, demons, weirdoes, freaks, nut jobs, heretics, the guys who read the whole Left Behind series – they’re all gonna show up. You gotta put your hands up, adjust your cup, and you gotta do your job. That’s Paul – Paul’s that kinda guy. Now so he’s the dude. Now, to plant his church he’s gonna go to a city. A dude’s gotta go to a city. After this, Paul left; went to Athens – great city. There he preached on Mars Hill – Acts 17, Acts 18. He went on to Corinth – dude goes to a city. City is important; we’re gonna talk a lot about the city. Many of you, when you think of Christianity you think of, you know, Norman Rockwell paintings, somebody out in the woods, 50 acres, 27 kids. You know, milking goats and getting your own eggs from the chicken, making your own clothes, singing the songs from The Sound of Music, homeschooling, waiting for the Rapture. (00:03:52)

 

Now why Driscoll and company might think to excise all that material consists of a set of questions that could, theoretically, be answered by Mark Driscoll Ministries and Real Faith and all those folks associated with its leadership.  Let’s turn, next, to materials Driscoll has posted this calendar year.  Again, this is the kind of material McKinney could not have possibly had a chance to quote.  However, a point that I have made about Mark Driscoll over the years is that he has a double standard about situations and settings where he wants to feel sorry for himself.  In other words, consider these next accounts to be references to a dark season in Driscoll’s life, possibly in the midst of the 2014 investigation in his final year at Mars Hill and the post-resignation period before Driscoll had started The Trinity Church.  As best as any human being can tell this seems to be the period Driscoll is alluding to:

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iX1HM9x8cQQ&t=4s

 

Feb 13, 2024

00:04

I’m a justice, vengeance, right & wrong black & white guy. Just am, down the fairway and there are some people and things in my life (that I won’t name or I won’t even get into) but I felt very attacked, neglected, used, abused, and sinned against and some of it, for me, is very public.

00:33

And I was really struggling with anxiety and bitterness and sometimes, if you’re a man, you can start to fantasize about dark ops. You know what I’m talking about? Like, “What could I do that the cops wouldn’t find out about?”

00:51

And so, um, I got a call from somebody, he’s now become a friend, his name is Dr. R. T. Kendell and he’ll be here to preach in April. He wrote a book called Total Forgiveness and that would be a great book for you if you struggle with bitterness.

01:05

And I went to his house and he and his wife (adorable) were sitting on their couch (he’s in his 80’s now) and we sat out and had a conversation for hours that changed my life. And he told me the story of Joseph. …

08:35

And here’s what my friend R. T. said, the deeper the forgiving the greater the anointing. Had Joseph not forgiven his brothers and his slave-traders and Potipher’s wife and the crooked, corrupt court system; and also forgiven the guys who didn’t get him out of jail when he interpreted their dreams; had he not done all of that forgiving he wouldn’t have all of that anointing.

 

08:59

Let me say this, men, the reason that he could rise to that position is because he had forgiven for decades. And here’s what R. T. said. He looked at me and he said,  (09:14) “Mark, you can either have bitterness or anointing but you can’t have both.” And he said, “You’ve got a decision to make. If you’re going to be bitter you’re will have no anointing. If you choose to forgive you will have anointing and the deeper the forgiving the greater the anointing.”  Does that make sense?

(09:29)

I love you guys and I think that the thing that is haunting you and is halting your anointing, for many of you, is bitterness and unforgiveness, okay, and  I want to get that out of the way so that the spirit of God can flow freely in your life. (09:47)

 

So the greater the forgiveness you extend to people the greater your anointing will be.  Anointing for what?  Driscoll doesn’t say in the clip. What he doesn’t address is the question of how Joseph’s capacity to forgive might have been connected to his gifts as a seer and interpreter of dreams.  Esther Hamori has written about dream divination and prophetic disciplines in Judaism you can go dig up at your leisure but the history of men in the Jewish traditions gifted with dream interpretation is a small but robust tradition.  Perchance to Dream is a Society of Biblical Literature monograph she helped edit that I commend to your attention.

So it seemed R. T. Kendell urged Driscoll that he was a man who could either choose to be bitter or to have anointing.  Driscoll, implicitly, would have his audience understand that he chose to forgive so as to keep his anointing.  In case anyone doubts he has an anointing there is another story he shares in which he claimed God the Father directly spoke to him and confirmed Mark Driscoll was/is anointed:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OQBDmNjnYX4&t=686s

How to Win When the Odds Are Stacked Against You !

Streamed live on Mar 2, 2024

11:36

I don’t know about you but I like strong not weak. I like winning not losing. All the verses about being humble and enduring suffering? I believe in them but I’m not particularly fond of them if I’m very honest with you.  Um, and I’m a guy, in my life, I, um, I am built for fighting and war. I just am.  

11:59

And so, for me I've been knocked down a lot of times but, uh, it wasn't until about a decade ago I got really knocked out. First time. Life just sort of defeated me and kicked my teeth down my throat. Previously I'd been knocked down but I always get up and I'm back in the fight. I'm kind of built for war. I lead with the chin, and I don't mind conflict and I'm willing to work and I have a high pain tolerance and I'll fight my way through it. 

 

And about ten years ago I got knocked down and I couldn't get up. First time in my whole life. I remember getting knocked down and not getting knocked up--and not being able to get back up. Got cancelled, overwhelmed, discouraged, anxious, threats to my safety and my family and our future and it was just overwhelming. And it was kind of like a boxing match where you take a knee but you get up, you take a knee but you get up, you take a knee and you realize "I can't get back up". 

 

And it was at that moment that it felt like the Lord just threw the towel in the ring cuz He could see his son wasn't getting back up. And it was the first time I really experienced profound, devastating loss in my life, something i couldn't fight through. It was over. There was no more rounds, it was time to go home. 

 

13:09

So like Gideon I withdrew. And then it says that the Holy Spirit CLOTHED Gideon and then I felt the anointing power and presence of the Holy Spirit. And I remember the Father spoke to me and I remember was really broken one day and I was like, "What am I gonna do? I got no house. You know we're moving and I don't know where we're gonna live and I don't have a job and I don't have a church, I'm unemployed and I've got five kids. You know we're under attack. What happens now?"   

13:25

… I was just in a season where I couldn’t handle anymore. And there was one day I was putting my clothes on and a button fell off, and I started crying. I’ll just be honest with you, usually, I have just enough resilience that I can make it through a button situation, right?  All of a sudden I was crying and I was, like, “My button’s gone!” You know? And it dawned on me, “I’m not doing very well.” You know the straw that broke the camel’s back? Well, this was the button that broke the pastor’s back. …

 

15:07

... and Jesus showed up and He met with me. 

15:32

And all I remember is the Father just saying "You've lost everything but my anointing and that's all you need. It'll go with you."  And I was like, "Great, you know, like, will Chase Bank take that?" Like, I don't know, I mean, that's what I was thinking if I'm being honest with you. 

 

We’ll get to the anointing element after we deal with the button. 

 

A button fell off an article of clothing and Mark Driscoll started crying, he tells us.  This is the same man who shared a humorous anecdote about how he told the sons of a church planter to dig a hole and put their dad in it.  When the man who’s crying because he’s reached his limit wasn’t Mark Driscoll, well, Mark Driscoll has said on the record for who knows how many people what he thought about that guy. But for Real Men?  The story is different, implicitly.  Driscoll reached his limit in a difficult time of his life and he assures his audience that God the Father told him “You’ve lost everything but my anointing and that’s all you need.”

 

Since Driscoll’s launching into a sermon series discussing Samson let’s ask whether Samson was even aware the spirit of the Lord had departed from him after he had his hair cut while he slept?  Anyone who’s read the Book of Judges knows the answer to that. 

But when Samson allowed his hair to be cut the spirit of the Lord departed from him and he didn’t realize it.

 

The trouble with wanting to keep an anointing is we’ve got a story about a man who was upset that the spirit of the Lord departed from and was replaced by a harmful spirit, King Saul.  King Saul had, it could be argued, at least one or two potent “anointing” experiences, the kind that can temporarily change a man who is, in the long run, not ultimately changed by those “power encounters”.  King Saul’s encounter with the guild of musical prophets springs to mind.  What is more, since in the Book of Judges there’s a Jephthah Barry Webb pointed out that the spirit of the Lord coming upon Jephthah did not mean that the man lost all agency.  He was still who he was and his vow was his vow.  Anthropological research into spirit possession states in African and South American settings (and elsewhere) have established that the canard that “possession” is all or nothing is obviously a defunct category. 

 

Which is to say that whatever an anointing may be a person is still who they are with all their vices and virtues.  Few people in the biblical literature are as vindictive and petty and stupid as Samson and yet, by the biblical account he kept his naziritically-preserved strength despite breaching nearly every standard of conduct a Nazirite was supposed to abide by.

 

Or as an old Pentecostal preacher once put it years ago, the anointing by itself says absolutely nothing about your moral character or doctrine and you can have a powerful anointing and still, ultimately, bring a lot of trouble on yourself.  Mark Driscoll, so far as I can tell, has not hung out with those kinds of Pentecostal preachers.

 

Man wraps himself in a blanky and in 2006 Driscoll mocks the man from the pulpit, in 2024 Mark Driscoll shares about how a button fell off an article of clothing and he started crying. 

What does anyone think the Mark Driscoll of 2006 would’ve likely said in reply? 

 

I have implicitly made this argument by extravagant quotation and narrative over the years but now I’m going to explicitly make this point—Mark Driscoll alienated many formerly loyal followers, attenders and fellow leaders within the history of the former Mars Hill Church when it became apparent how wide and deep and entrenched his double standards were regarding what was tolerable for himself but not in others.  If he spent years having a privately miserable marriage with Grace that didn’t disqualify him from pastoral ministry even though meeting Christian counselors who he thought had marriages at least as bad as his meant they were not fit to counsel him.

 

For those who never read it …

Real Marriage: the truth about sex, friendship and life together

Mark and Grace Driscoll

copyright 2012 by On Mission, LLC

ISBN 978-1-4041-8352-0 

 

page 14

We didn't know how to talk through these extremely hard issues without hurting each other even more, so we didn't talk about them at all. I just got more bitter, and Grace just felt more condemned and broken, like a failure. Occasionally we'd meet a Christian pastor or counselor who was supposed to be an expert in these areas, but we never spoke with them in much detail, because in time we found out they either had marriages as bad as ours or they had been committing adultery and were disqualified for ministry. We felt very alone and stuck.

 

So if your marriage was as bad as Mark Driscoll thought his own marriage to Grace was you were not fit to counsel him but he didn’t stop giving marital counsel during his entire run as a pastor at Mars Hill, did he? That, dear readers, is the apotheosis of the double standard. 

 

Just like it’s a double standard for Driscoll to talk about how he got knocked down and couldn’t get back up again and appreciated wise counsel talking to him about forgiveness and how to retain his anointing.  What did he say about the least dudely dude church planter to the man’s sons? 

 

Dig a hole – we’re putting your dad in it. He’s no good; we’re done with him, you know. He’s just no good at all.

 

It’s not like John Lindell couldn’t look up the sermon from 2006 as it was originally preached but, for those who have read Wenatchee The Hatchet over the last ten years I was busy week after week in the 2013 to 2014 era chronicle how much purging Mars Hill was doing of Mark Driscoll’s sermons from their media library.  So, not personally knowing or much caring about John Lindell the man or pastor, I don’t wish to assume he had to have known “everything” all this time about Mark Driscoll.  Driscoll is a man who seems to relish having the secrets of others while preserving his own. 

 

To put this in more colloquial terms, as a friend of mine from the Mars Hill years put it, Mark is the kind of man who can dish out barrels of criticism but can’t take any criticism at all. 

 

Back around 2013 Mark Driscoll’s art of the sob story focused far more intensely on his wife and children (and there’s every reason to feel bad for the things he has likely-or-definitely put them through) but in the current year, 2024, as the tenth anniversary of his Richard Nixon moment among megachurch pastors approacheth, he has felt comfortable telling sob stories about himself.  Straight, no chaser. 

 

Didn’t Jesus utter a beatitude in the synoptic gospels about “blessed are the merciful for they will be shown mercy”? 


UPDATE  4-23-2024

A friend reminded me that if Driscoll claimed real men don't cry then Psalm 6 and John 11:35 present problems for his idea of manliness.  If Jesus was man enough to cry why would Driscoll say real men don't cry?  Driscoll once said in the Mars Hill years he wanted to do a sermon series on Lamentations.  Oh yeah?  But real men don't cry, huh?  How about Psalm 88?  

When the shoe's on the other foot Driscoll wants to be able to cry and tell you about it from the pulpit no matter how much he'll say about other men that real men don't cry.  

If John Lindell has had pangs of conscious only after Driscoll pulled the latest variation on the theme of, say, crashing the Strange Fire conference, he may have just blinded himself to what Driscoll could say and do. It's happened to and with a lot of people over the decades.  I fooled myself into thinking that Driscoll's stunt as William Wallace II could be mellowed out by the fact that Gunn and Moi were around to rein him in.  They didn't in the long run.  

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