Tuesday, May 12, 2015

Eve Tushnet asks (if rhetorically) "Has making romance the only haven for adult intimacy been good for romance?"

 
http://www.theamericanconservative.com/articles/no-marriage-is-an-island/
But for now I want to look at a different question. Has making marriage the only intelligible committed relationship between adults been good for marriage? Has making romance the only haven for adult intimacy been good for romance?

When the only way to get devoted love is through romantic love, you might expect romantic devotion to be strengthened. The numbers suggest that this has not happened. Marriage rates are at historic lows (and see also this book) and while cohabitation has increased dramatically, cohabiting relationships are still much less stable than marriage (see Cherlin again for more). As our definition of family has narrowed, our families have destabilized.

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