Wednesday, September 03, 2008

sometimes "intentionality" seems dubious, and when can the bride not be the bride?

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I am in a church setting where people use the word "intentionality" or "intentional". It is invoked to say that we do this or say this with intent, with a purpose, with a certain not-quite-explicated seriousness. To say that one brings intentionality into a relationship might most often be ascribed to a situation in which courtship, dating, or some various other descriptions of seeking the state of matrimony is involved.

But there is an unintended pun in this invocation of intent and intentionality, that the nature of intent and the extent to which the thing that is invoked is muted or precluded by the very intent to have it intended. You can be so busy deciding you're going to make friends you don't really make any or you assess the value of all people on the basis of whether or not they may be friends. At an equally mundane and practical level the man or woman who assesses all unmarried members of the opposite sex has destroyed any opportunity to truly assess whether any of them might be a suitable spouse in the very act of will through which he or she "intends" to seek out that end. Heisenberg, if my memory is remotely accurate, seems to have been the one to propose that you cannot simultaneously establish the velocity/trajectory and location of a particle at one and the same instant.

Perhaps, just to be a smart-ass about this, this principle applies to things like building relationships. If you go out intending to make friends you won't make them. If you go out intending to find a wife you are paradoxically not looking for a wife.

To tie this to a rather ham-fisted summary of a philosophical region I am not that familiar with, the problem with something like intentionality is how messed up it's quasi-Platonic aspect can be. The guy who goes around with intent to be married is intended to obtain something that has no real world, physical correlative. It is a sign seeking a signifier, a symbol seeking a referent, perhaps an Aristotletian ideation mutated into a Platonic ideal. The single man in a church setting sees all of the apparently joyfully married men and women and from that extrapolates "I wish to be married" or perhaps more crudely, "I wish to get laid" and from these twin impulses ideates the notion that because this is a goal to be pursued not least because his pastors insist that the purpose of young men is to love God, get jobs, get married, and make babies, that this becomes a form of applied sanctification and that, therefore, one most go out with intentionality to obtain a wife. After all, it may be said, that when Proverbs says that he who finds a wife finds what is good and receives blessing from the Lord it means active seeking and industrious activity rather than just waiting around for God to drop some woman in a man's lap.

The paradox of applied Calvinism verses applied Arminianism that I have noted for years is that the Arminian who posits free will sweats bullets about how one may truly determine if this or that act is wtihin the will of Christ where as the Calvinist merely presupposes that whatever he wants is approved by God if he is seeking God and so in some sense the Arminian who believes in freedom obsesses about discerning the will of the God who gave him free will that he ironically would like less of. By contrast, the Calvinist who claims we have no free will presumes that freedom of choice allows one to do more or less anything not expressly forbidden by Scripture. How Calvinists can embrace the normative principle in all life but liturgy and then suddenly become insane regulative principle advocates escapes my understanding but I most certainly have limits to my intellect!

It sometimes seems as though a person can, beyond any otherwise dubious notions of creating a list, Christianly come up with a way to seek something that does not exist on the supposition that it does exist, namely, a spouse. The reason this settles in my mind so often is because it seems as though my church obsesses about the idea, has made some kind of idol of the idea. I recently spent some time with a few couples, not couples I consider particularly close friends at all but whom I consider reasonably friendly, and they were speaking wistfully of the things they used to do in terms of outreach or ministry of what-have-you when they were unmarried that they now no longer have time to do. Simply redefine what outreach and ministry are and one will see, quite simply, that the domain in which one loves Christ and His people and creation have changed. No one has lost any opportunities but simply been brought by the grace of Christ into new ones.

And some definitions of ministry assume that breadth rather than depth is needed. What if the nature of the "ministry" we are called to is to love one another as Christ loves us? If that is ministry then evangelism and conversion have their place among those who have that role in the body of Christ where ever they may be. The eye should not consider the ear to be nothing for being an ear, nor should the eye consider itself to be nothing for not being an ear. If every thing can be service to Christ and our neighbor then there is no need for any formality.

And in that moment the lack of a need for formality can reveal a lack of need for intentionality. There can be intent up the yin yang for the Pharisee. As Bonhoeffer put it so plainly in Ethics the problem was that the Pharisee not only KNEW he was seeking to do the right thing but was obsessed with it. The problem of the Pharisee was intentionality that revealed the bifurcated nature of his heart that was not at union with God. So in some ways me, being the single guy at a church that has obsessed for years with guys loving Jesus by getting jobs and marrying, lack what may be called "intentionality" and I feel that in some fundamental ways that is a good thing. If I were "intent" on marriage I might do a terrible disservice to actual woman in search for the would-be wife. One of my closest friends only had one girlfriend before he got married and he deeply regrets having that one girlfriend.

This doesn't mean I think dating is bad, at all. I sometimes begin to suspect that what is worse than dating is "intentionality" that it creates a cure that is worse than the disease. The pastors at my church seem to have stumbled on to this discovery but do not have the courage or circumspection to admit that they promoted a cure that was as bad as the disease. I have not entirely given up on the idea that some kind of corporate repentance is possible on this subject ... but I hold it rather loosely because one of the flaws of "intentionality" is that it is a mode of thought that can pin hopes on things that do not actually exist. It is one thing to trust that Christ may provide this or that blessing and another thing to presume upon it.

I would not say I feel like leaving my church in the sense that I think I should flip them the bird and tell them I never want to see any of them again. Nothing could be further from the truth. I love the people at my church but especially my friends. I admit it, you cannot really love in the abstract and the day that you persuade yourself that you can or do, the day you fool yourself into thinking you love the platonic ideal of your church or friends or husband or wife is the day you fall in love with the idol of what you WANT them to be and not who and what they truly are.

I am concerned, sometimes, that some of my pastors may love the idea of the church they run more than the church they are placed to serve. I have not gone out on a limb to discuss the matter because if I were to say anything I am concerned that that might simply be taken as proof in their minds that the problem is all me. I do not have this misgiving about the specific pastor who handles the place I attend but I have that worry about other people at other branches because I have heard from friends and acquaintences about how leaders who have no real relationship with those they formally lead simply accuse and condemn in the wake of concerns expressed that, so far as the paperwork of a "covenant" goes, the members are considered obliged to express and yet are punished for expressing. This is the sort of abusive double-bind that can run in families for generations and not be recognized for what it is because it is the only relational pattern that is known. It takes time and effort to recognize it.

To the extent that the term intentionality has meaning it seems to have meaning for the Christian first of all in repentance and not necessarily in other ways. But it is dangerous here, too, because I can always "intend" to repent of whatever sins I have resigned to without actually repenting. Repenting is both a condition and direction of the heart and the manifestation of that condition and direction. Just as it is impossible to decouple the imputation and impartation of Christ's righteousness on the basis of a systematics demanding a forensic/judicial metaphor at the expense of all others, so it is divorce actions from heart.

I was speaking ever so briefly with a woman I am acquainted with who works as a deacon at a party I was at a week ago. She shared that she sometimes wished that the pastors at her church would just settle on one message about men, women, dating, marriage, and courtship and simply stick with it because the messages right now are so legion and irreconciliable the collective message is an incoherent, contradictory mess.

It is here that some friends of mine simply suppose "so? What does it matter?" It matters because when people claim to be placed in spiritual authority over people, claim to preach from the Scriptures and have the truth about life as given by Christ, then any and all internal contradictions that fail to be resolved take on a new meaning, the spiritual authorities who voted themselves into the position (and may be in a variety of cases are appointed by God, really) do not speak with one voice or speak with one voice in such a casuistric way they fail to grasp the limits of the advice.

In other words, if you preach a message to the 90% the 10% who are not providentially in the place of the 90% do not benefit yet are told to live in light of the message for the 90%.

If the leaders are excused simply on the basis that the followers ought to know better it sets up a dynamic in which the led bear all the responsibility while the leaders bear none.

Let me explain in terms too broad what this might mean. Suppose the pastor at a church full of single people says to guys "Go with the one in front of you." this advice means, in one sense, to not quest for the holy grail wife and go with a woman whom God has set before you. Walk in a given direction and if a woman is walking along the same path and the two of you seem to love God and at some point each other then marry. This is not usually described in transactional terms as "Would this man/woman be a good business partner for me?" That is more or less what would be involved since the two of you would be sharing finances and resources and all other less tangible things, too. But there's no romance in presenting marriage like that, is there? Nevertheless, most marriages allegedly founder on the subject of money.

But a man who is told to be intentional does not realize that two organic components that are inert in themselves and sustain life can become paradoxically toxic in combination. The term "intentionality" brings with it the law that can destroy grace and paradoxically binds rather than liberates. It sets up a standard of righteousness in which the man is expected to simply sort out things. He has been told "go with the one in front of you" and also "you need to be intentional and not casual" even though to go with the one in front of you generally implies a potentially casual approach to things. After all, if you're going with the one in front of you you're not necessarily looking that hard or questing for the holy grail. By contrast, "intentionality" introduces an ethical standard in which you are SUPPOSED to be questing for the right wife and being "intentional" about your relationships with women. And this means that the guy who might otherwise go with the one in front of him because of desires in his heart may simply decide something like this.

Pastor says I should be intentional and not casual.
Pastor says I should go with the one in front of me.
Pastor says I should not have a laundry list.
Pastor lays out a laundry list from the Song of Songs.

These contradictions are inherent in the pastor's presentation of the subject, not the unmarried man, yet it is held upon the man as his burden to unravel the would-be paradoxes and treat them as pardoxes and not contradictions. Or the fellow is told he needs to recognize that is all grace, which is the get-out-of-jail free card for a Calvinist church leader who isn't bothering to really unpack anything that might actually be a paradox. I have heard it said that you don't find the one you're looking for until you stop looking. Since I have never been looking as such does that mean I need to START looking so I can stop looking and thereby magically find the right woman whom I should marry? It doesn't seem like it actually works like that. When a married friend of mine said that you have to stop looking to find the right one and heard my joke about how i ought to start looking so I could stop looking she laughed. She got the joke and I took no offense at her suggestion because she has provided other insights that help me understand what she's getting at.

She shared with me that what Christian guys, or at least Christian guys at the church we attend, seem to do, is to mess up the intentional thing. They come at it with their resume printed out and their five year business plan (possibly inspired by the head pastor's pop pyschology fetish for reverse engineering his life by mapping out where he wants to be in five years and building his life around that and encouraging others to do the same). They come to the woman and make the case for them to be the girlfriend or wife for them. And my friend would have to somehow politely decline in a way that conveyed that since these guys had never bothered to form an actual friendship with her how on earth could they suppose she would take them seriously as a possible husband. Intentionality became the means of destroying not only any possibility for being married to this woman but in some sense precluded even the possibility of friendship. Intentionality was here the law that destroyed grace. Ironically, the man she is now married to (and he's a great guy) didn't let on how interested he was in her for months so that it came as a genuine and complete surprise to her.

Now, where these aforementioned contradictory axioms coalesce into a mess is that the Christian guy who is advised that married men can do more for the kingdom of God even though Scripture so otherwise has to somehow reconcile the "don't be casual, be intentional" command with the "go with the one in front of you" advice. What does he do?

Well, it's pretty simple. He tries to put himself in front of as many of the hottest single women in the church that he can in the hopes that one of them will happen to be the one in front of him whom he should seek intentionality with the goal of marriage in mind. This is actually a recipe for a shallow Christian version of a ladies man who sanctifies his quest for validation by means of a putatively pastor-ordained approach to mating rituals.

I have met Christian men who hold in all seriousness that how men and women meet involves the man pretending to be interested in things the woman is interested in long enough to establlish a relationship at which point the man can be secure enough in the relationship to stop pretending he is interested in the thing the woman is interested in. Or the woman goes into. This pernicious approach seems to be popular with both the sexes and I find the idea so repellant I can't find words for it I feel would befit this blog entry (at least right now). It is essentially giving yourself permission to lie. The rationale for this sort of wickedness is that married people often come around to genuinely liking things that their spouses like over time. In fact I am friends with a couple where after years the husband genuinely enjoys baseball and doesn't stick his nose in a book when he and his wife go to ball games. He never feigned interest in the sport but joined his wife on the activity out of real love for her and out of that mutual love he eventually came to not only understand but truly enjoy the activity he formerly had no interest in. "Intentionality" can be a form of self deception and deception of others that we should avoid as though the cost were our own souls and the souls of others.

In other words, were I married and my wife loved Meg Ryan movies I would not lie to her about detesting Meg Ryan and Nora Ephron. I would, however, not malign them to the best of my feeble ability so as to ensure that I don't make a mockery of something she loves. After all, I love half the string quartets of Hindemith. Hindemith, seriously.

This is why when friends have advised me to, say, use my being a musician or composer as a way to attract women I just hate the idea. Sure, were I married I would love for my wife to love the music that I write and listen to but I don't think I should simply assume that. I shouldn't assume that if I marry at all that she must have this or that quality. I mean, I feel uncomfortable putting it this way but I have some family who at the time of being married wanted to play in a professional band and didn't want kids and were set on going the path of professional music. They never did anything in professional music and seem likely to never go down that path and haven't seemed to write or do anything music in the last decade. Yet they were determined that supporting each other in music was necessary and vital as part of their marriage.

I don't know if I want to marry a woman who will "support" me in my music so much as a wife with whom I can build a life in which I also have time to pursue music as a hobby or even as a profession so that the two spheres, though ideally mutually blessing, do not at the worst become inert or get in each others way. In other words, if being married doesn't get in the way of working on music and working on music doesn't get in the way of being married I don't have to have a wife who "supports" me as a musician or whom I support as a musician. It's not that I wouldn't want to be married to a musician, just that I have to recognize that as the course of life goes if I had my hands irreparably damaged I couldn't even be a musician and life with my wife would consist of other things. And I think my family who wanted to be musicians have made the wise decision of not really bothering about music to focus on the things they do share together now, raising a family. I think that their abandonment of what might be called intentionality to invest in each other as actual people, not the people they hoped themselves and each other to be, is how they have gotten their marriage to work as it has in the last ten years. That doesn't mean I don't hope they can become musicians again and work on music, but love that hopes for all things and believes all things can also acknowledge that some of our hopes are passing worldly fancies.

And sometimes the passing worldly fancy can be the aspiration to be married itself.

So I have thought a lot about these things because few things reveal the insanity of the church I genuinely love more than its astonishingly incoherent views on men and women seeking to build lives together. And yet I am not in the least looking forward to this topic being revisited in the next few months because I confess to having no confidence that the contradictions visited so far won't be revisited, and I also have no confidence that those who foisted these incoherent ideas upon me and my kind will ever actually confess to having erred in any respect by adding things which are not necessarily in Scripture.

I do not look forward to what I fear will simply be a lengthy study in what I might have to call Christian porn. If you reject the idea that Song of Songs is an allegory of Christ's love for the Church and hold that it is chiefly and only about marital relationship and the joy of sex with no reference to children why would you do this at the expense of acknowledging that the prophets are littered with passages in which the metaphor of God as groom and Israel as bride and that as that relationship is invariably described within the prophetic corpus as full of adultery, idolatry, and betrayal, then how can Paul when he writes his epistle to the Ephesians invoke the mystery that the husband and wife are like Christ and the Church and have ANY POSITIVE CORRELATION FOR THAT RELATIONSHIP IF WE ASSUME THE SONG OF SONGS CANNOT POSSIBLY BE A DIVINE ALLEGORY?

Remember, folks, Revelation has probably not been written yet at the time Paul wrotes to the Ephesians. Well, that would be true unless you hold that Paul couldn't have possibly written Ephesians and that Ephesians has to have been written some time after Revelation, which means that Paul would have been dead around AD 60 under Nero and Revelation was written some time after AD 90, the most commonly guessed date range for Revelation. Even if we held to a more preterist view the earliest date for Revelation would still presuppose a date of writing around the destruction of the Temple which means that any genuinely Pauline letter could not draw on a Revelation that was given to John at Patmos.

So, in any event, Paul could speak of, say, the groom/bride relationship in Hosea, but if those promises find their fulfillment in and through Christ then why would Paul still speak to the Ephesians about the bride of Christ being like Gomer if the restoration of God's people promised in the eschaton was already being brought about by Christ? Answer, uh, well, uh is there one if we reject even the possibility that the metaphor given to us through the Scriptures about the groom and bride as God and His people? Paul had to have had some kind of fresh insight based on nothing but some revelation only he got that wouldn't be replicated until John if the Song of Songs isn't even a possibility of understanding the relationship God in Christ had and would have with His people.

It means that we are presented an Old and New Testament in which the bride of Christ is invariably some rutting slut who can't see herself as the unblemished bride or hope to be presented as that until the end of all things. It is surely something to hope and pray for but if there is no example of what that can be now in reality or in its history that presents what might be called a moral problem and a problem of morale all at once!

Who would want to join this bride, this body? Now I would say that the allegory can only function if at its literal narrative level it is also true, but I see no reason to reject one level to affirm the other. The two ought to be able to reinforce each other. A pastor may want to avoid literalizing a metaphorical idiom like apocalyptic and conversely a poetic idiom of the like we see in Song of Songs may lose its poetry of literalized too much. So Revelation loses its poetry if the locusts have to be interpreted as Soviet helicopters by the likes of Jack van Impe just as Song of Songs may lose its poetry if someone like Mark Driscoll, for instance, reduces the meaning of the poetic language to oral sex and ses only that meaning in it. It may be a meaning possible within the text but is that really the only meaning? Who is really doing a possible disservice to the poetry of Scripture here? Is it possible that both approaches at fixating on what the poetic symbolism in Scripture means can do damage to the actual poetry?

I'm not saying that Song of Songs isn't about married life, just suggesting that it CAN ALSO be about the love of God for His people? Why? Because it seems weird to insist that every book of the Bible points to Christ properly interpreted and His atoning sacrifice except the Song of Songs. Didn't Solomon write that it is good to hold on to one and not let go of the other? Would not Solomon's method, who is traditionally attributed as WRITING THE SONG OF SONGS, be a valuable guide in how to approach the song that he wrote? Or does Solomon's advice in Ecclesiastes about the godly man not going to extremes have no value here because the interpreter has already made up his mind about what the text must mean regardless of what the biblical author may have to share with us?

If a pastor takes the approach of rejecting the allegorical approach and emphasizes not only the literal meaning but also extends the poetic idiom of the song to include things like oral sex, mutual masturbation, practicing various positions, and the like ... well, of course a person would have to reject the idea of Song of Songs as an allegory because what could a person then bring to the idea that Christ is the groom and the Church is the bride if a person fixates on the subject of what might have to be described as holy blow jobs (sorry, that's just a line that Burt Ward's Robin might have said between takes of an episode of Batman and Robin in the 1960s).

As an unmarried Christian I simply want to know that if a Christian pastor takes that approach to the book what good is the book to an unmarried man? It sets him on a path in which he reads the book in more or less the terms of it being sanctified porn and has an interpretive lens that skews the entire book in that light. Is it then only that man's fault if he begins to struggle with lust in a new way? Is it possible that the pastor's interpretive approach made him culpable before God in having that unmarried man reject the possibility that the Song of Songs speaks of Christ's love for His bride?

More pointledly, if the pastor presents Song of Songs as dealing with sexual positions and techniques without also examining other aspects of the text that in both rabbinic and Christian traditions go beyond married life to speak of God and His people, then if the unmarried man comes to obsess over such a reading of Scripture does the hearer become the person solely responsible for what the pastor insisted is the only way to interpret the book? Or does the pastor potentially become culpable before Christ Himself for presenting the book in a light that inflames rather than calms the passions?

Why is the metaphor of groom and bride sacrosanct and beautiful in Revelation where the apostle clearly invokes it in the most positive way if to invoke it in Song of Songs is somehow overspiritualized or somehow perverse? What if the problem is that a pastor attempts to overliteralize a metaphor of alarming power?

A pastor might complain that having the Song of Songs as an allegory doesn't work because he doesn't want to imagine himself in a wedding dress and Jesus is looking at him with a hard on. Well ... uh ... he's got no problem imagining that in Revelation Christ is depicted as the groom who loves his bride the Church or preaching about how we can look forward to the wedding supper of the Lamb. It is only by taking an atomized approach to biblical literature and super-imposing himself as an individual Christian into the Song of Songs taken as an allegory that this becomes so problematic for the pastor who explicitly rejects allegory in favor of a Song of Songs that is sexually explicit. Now it seems Bernard of Clairveaux took the allegorical approach of Song of Songs as applying to God's love for the individual Christian but that seems like a somewhat innovative extension of an allegory beyond biblical/traditional warrant anyway. Rejecting a metaphor on the basis of presumed individual relevance when the metaphor invariably takes on a corporate meaning that anyone can verify seems ... odd.

Here's the thing, I'm for interpreting Song of Songs in a way that shows that married life can be full of joy. But what I find increasingly troublesome is that if this is done so by explicitly rejecting even the possibility that the Song of Songs can also be taken as in any way pointing to Christ a pastor who takes this interpretive path becomes a hypocrite if he claims that all of Scripture points to Christ if it is properly interpreted ... except the Song of Songs which is about holy blow jobs. If a pastor were to take offense at my taking him to task for this it could only because his own conscience may be injuring him for not consistently applying his own stated paradigm about the proper handling of Scripture. I'm just pointing out the hypocrisy in the hermeneutic, that's all.

Now let's for the moment simply forget the argument from Church tradition and history here. Let's go to the Protestant paradigm of the sola scripture and rejecting patristic evidence and insist only on the paradigm of Scripture interpreting Scripture. Guess what? If all over the prophets and in the New Testament Christ is spoken of as the groom and the Church as the bride then would not the perpescuity of Scripture itself argue in favor of at least the possibility of an allegorical element? Why not? Where in the Old Testament could the faithful turn to see an example of a husband and wife in Scripture who are not lying to each other, who are not betraying each other to pagan rulers, who are not resenting each other, who are not failing each other except within the Song of Songs?

And by extension, if in the prophets we see that the bride of God has whored herself out to idols and nations where in Scripture could saints of old and in our time turn to during the apostolic era for any POSITIVE example of what the metaphorical marriage between God and His people might look like if we expressly reject the Song of Songs? We have Hosea and yet Hosea invokes a restoration that suppose the metaphor of marriage. But what is the metaphor of marriage really invoking? Erections and sexual positions or abiding and inexpressable love?

Were a pastor to insist that seeing Christ allegorically in the groom in Song of Songs compels us to imagine Jesus with a hard-on then why not import this imposition of literalism regarding the metaphor on to Revelation where the metaphor is so pointed? Would this pastor attempt to extrapolate what the honeymoon of the Groom and Bride might look like? Would he go so far as to suppose that the arrival of heaven on earth will be some kind of cosmos-enveloping orgasm? And in that age no one will be married or given in marriage yet God's people will be His bride. If marriage itself is a metaphor then why reject the metaphor in the book where marriage is presented in its most beautiful form? If the Church is not merely the Bride of Christ but also the Body of Christ then should we ask who is the erect penis of the body of Christ that Paul is talking about. If this sounds blasphemous or disrespectful I am not saying this to be blasphemous or disrespectful about Christ or the family He has purchased with His blood that is united through the work of the Spirit. I'm demonstrating that at some point using a series of reductio ad absurdums about the metaphors of Scripture to justify avoiding a particular interpretation of the Song of Songs may itself be a symptom of a deeply flawed approach to appreciating the poetry of Scripture and the symbolism given to us to help us better understand that our hope is in Christ. Any hermeneutic which impels us to accept the metaphor as given everywhere but in the book that describes itself in the canon as the Song of Songs presents us with a problem.

I'm simply pointing out that if the objection in one instance applies it must applied in all others. So if we must avoid the allegory of the groom and bride as describing God and His people in Song of Songs because we refuse to imagine ourselves wearing the wedding dress and seeing Jesus looking at us with a hard-on then we must apply this objection to the metaphor of God as a husband and His people as His bride in every instance in which the metaphor is invoked in Scripture. Reductio ad absurdums regarding intepretive paradigms applied to Scripture don't present themselves more readily than that, do they? This isn't just a straw man, this is a straw man that comes to us soaked in gasoline, dancing his way toward us with a book of matches in hand, singing "Come on baby light my fire!"

I respectfully submit that my reservation about that whole hermeneutic is that it is so mercilessly cherry-picking the internal evidence regarding the metaphor of groom and bride within Scripture in an attempt to discredit its potential application as symbolism (in just one book of the Bible and not the others, no less) that it's problematic. If there is some nasty pun involving a double entendre in what I just wrote it's not intended but if your mind is dirty enough to go there you probably just proved my point about how things can be taken too far. Solomon wrote in Ecclesiastes that it is good for a man to hold on to one and not let go of the other and that a godly man will avoid all extremes. The trouble I see is that someone seems to be proposing a cure to one extreme that is possibly no better than the disease. Substituting one extreme for the other is not looking like the answer to what the problem appears to be.

1 comment:

Quinault said...

I have to agree with you on the allegorical versus marital angle.

It can be "symbolic" of Christ's love for his bride the church.

Not that I am trying to convert/proselytize, but to read the Orthodox bible's notes on the Song of Solomon is really enlightening. There is still all the romance between a married couple. But it doesn't seem as...well...smutty as Mark Driscoll makes it out to be. He find symbolism in the text that the Church fathers simply did not. And in places where the church has always seen symbolism Driscoll doesn't. A great deal of the text seems to be directed toward the Jewish nation coming back into the fold of Christ. And about the birth/growth of Gentile churches.

When you come by this weekend feel free to peak at the notes in my Orthodox study bible.